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Here is a copy of an E-mail that my aunt sent me, Please read it and offer me any advice you may have about it. I'm at the end of my rope, any advice will be appreciated. - Thank's

Phil,
I know you probably have gone to bed by now so I thought I would just email
you. Sorry about your cat.

You mother did not want me to upset you but wanted me to let you know a few
things. She called me at 9:30 last night and said that Stevie had gone to
Shiela's to spend the night. He left her sitting up in the chair and around
4:30 AM she evidently called the ADT thing and they called Stevie at
Sheila's. She was sliding out of the chair. Stevie came home and she said
that he cussed her out and kept on for a long time. I have been on the phone
all afternoon with her, Margaret and Eleanor.

Margaret and Ray went over to see her this afternoon. I called Margaret and
she said that your mother was walking a little with the walker. Then your
mother called me again and she that she told Stevie what the case worker had
told him about not leaving her alone - that he could be charged with abuse.
I don't know why she told him - but you know she is in bad shape, mentally
and physically. He told her that it wasn't worth getting the house to have
to put up with her and that she was going to make him lose Shiela. So Stevie
and Sheila left again mad. I am going to call her before I go to bed to see
if they come back tonight or not.

Well, your mother just called. She said that the called Shiela on her cell
phone and that they are coming back to spend the night. I don't think you
will get this email tonight. When you get it tomorrow, you need to call your
mother. Something has got to be done. She cannot be left alone. If there are
other nursing homes that might be better, we can go one day and look. To me,
anything is better than being treated the way Stevie treats her and being
alone.

Let me hear from you.

Carolyn

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Here is a copy of a reply to a friend who I asked for his advice.

God hears and answers prayer.The one sure way to bind the demonic spirits coming agaist you is to pray. And a little backup would be good. This is what I suggest, Call everyone you know, who knows how to get a hold of God. Sunday have a prayer day for Dorthy. Anyone who can pray and will pray have them to do so any part of the day or all day. Anyone who would be willing to fast one meal that would be great.
Greater his he that is in me than he that is in the world. You are not fighting Steve, you are fighting a spiritual warfare. You don't have to put up with it. If God be for us then who can be against us. Remember it is not Steve you are fighting. Keep me posted , I'll be glad to help you pray.

* -Here is a copy of a reply to another friend who I asked for her advice.

Hi Phill, good to talk to you too and hope you are managing to find some R+R on your day off. Phil, my thoughts about your aunt's letter is that your Mom does need to go into a nursing home full time. Your brother seems incapable of taking care of her and obviously you cannot do it on a regular basis. Medicaid may be able to pay for it if your Mom has assets below a certain monetary value. She may need to have the house taken out of her name. I'm not sure what medicare would cover, but it seems like they should do something. Perhaps your aunt can help you find a person to be your Mom's case manager. This would probably be a social worker with the geriatric unit of her county's mental health center. You will need to find this number and call and get some additional regular help--a social worker to help get her in a home where she can get the 24 hour care she needs.

Bless your heart, Hang in there, xoxo, Love, Anne